Bettering Those Around You!

So this post is a little more personal... Also, it is reared a little more towards women...

Since I am young I have only lived my adult life in College towns. The plus is having people around in my age group and usually more things to do on the cheap. One of the negatives that I have really noticed is the competitive drive. Now being competitive can be great! It can help you allot in life but in my opinion competitive and wishing ill for others are two Very different things!

 

Give even if it is a little bit 

I would love to live in a world where we uplift one another! Why is it fair for you to put others down around you and then you reaping all the benefits? Why not encourage those around us? Come together and make a better happier place as one! I know this may sound very cheesy but I promise when you start to wish those around you joy and happiness... You will feel more joy and happiness in your own life! Along with that it is a different joy and happiness you feel completely selfless and unconditional happiness for those around you!! 

Warning it can be addicting! Now with helping others it is an amazing beautiful selfless act. Be careful you have to remember if you are volunteering your own time, your health comes first! You cannot constantly put others in front of you and neglect yourself! I know this kind of makes it a catch 22 but so many get so involved with volunteering their time to others that their own health can and may be at risk. That is not OK. Helping others is Great but if you struggle with going too far and too much ask for help. Have someone there to remind you to take time for yourself! Ask others around you to help you out so you can still achieve your volunteering goals on time without wearing yourself out.

Now I would like to go to the flip side

I find that sometimes it is hard to take in other people’s well wishes. I believe, especially with women, we tend to not take anything genuine. I understand it is often a defense mechanism but by brushing off someone’s complement or hand for help actually makes you the bad person. Wouldn't you rather be the one to take the complement and feel good weather it was genuine or not? I sure would, because at the end of the day I am happy, positive, and a good person so that will be the only energy I will let in! It feels amazing!

I am horrible at asking let alone receiving help. I know there are so many great people out there wanting to help and be there for people! Now keep these people in mind for the next time you are sick or moving and Let them Help you! They want to do it and they like to do it! It does not make you less of a person! We are human and we CANT do everything no matter how hard we try. So take that open hand and let them help! 

I am sorry if this all comes across as a crazy rant but I am tired of smiling at others and giving others genuine complements and in return getting glares and attitude. That is just sad. We are all human and we all want a long happy life and I believe that is in our every day! So the next time you are at the grocery store offer to help the cute little lady in front of you and when you are out on the town and see a girl in a cute dress tell her! It means more to them then you think and it will make you feel like superman! Now if they chose to not take your help or complement that is on them not you! What matters is you tried to help someone have a better day! What a great gift to give! 

The challenge 

Try to give at least one complement a day! Now you may start with your family and or roommates but I encourage you to try and do it to the neighbor across the street, then the cashier at the grocery story, then the lady in the parking lot...  Try to get more and more comfortable so before you know it you will be giving everyone you see a genuine complement! 

if you feel you already do this...

Find a local shelter to serve food, plant a tree in your local park, volunteer time to visit those in nursing homes and hospitals, offer to babysit for free, or  call a friend that you know is in need and offer your time!

All of these things will make you a happier healthier person!!!

Healthy Life- Happy Life